It can be really hard to move forward when life throws you challenges. You may have chosen a path that makes you happy and fulfilled, but things get in your way. Maybe it’s an illness, a relationship breakup, or the loss of someone close to you. Maybe it’s something else entirely. No matter what, there are some things you can do to help yourself get past this difficult spot so that you can move forward with everything else in your life intact:
1. Remember that things can be different
The first step to moving forward when life throws you challenges is to remember that things can be different.
Whether it’s new ways of thinking, new perspectives on how something works, or a changed perspective on how you want your life to look, there are many possibilities for change. If you’re feeling stuck in your life and looking for a way out, here are some ideas:
Change your perspective. Your perspective determines how much control over the circumstances you have (or don’t have). For example, if someone close to me dies and I feel like I’m falling apart because of it, it may seem like there’s nothing I can do about the situation — but this isn’t true at all! It could be helpful for me to realize that this person has lived their whole life with only one perspective: theirs! They didn’t know what other people were going through when they were alive because they never took into account anyone else’s point of view except their own, so why should I assume that my world will always stay exactly as it is now? By changing my viewpoint from seeing myself as being powerless against these uncontrollable factors affecting me (death) into seeing myself as having potential power over them because our lives aren’t always just about us–they’re also dependent upon others–I might begin making decisions based on what would benefit everyone involved instead of just myself alone.”
2. Don’t pretend to be optimistic all the time, and keep building up your resilience
It can be tempting to try to be optimistic all the time, but if you’re not feeling good, it’s okay to say that. Don’t pretend that everything is fine when it isn’t. It is also okay to ask for help or a change of scenery if what you are doing isn’t working for you. If something doesn’t work, try something else, and don’t be afraid to ask someone else in your life what they think might work better than what you were doing before.
3. Learn to listen kindly to yourself
One of the biggest challenges in overcoming depression and anxiety is being able to look at your life from a different perspective. If you’re not kind to yourself, it will be hard for you to be kind to others and vice versa. To help with this, try to recognize when you are saying things about yourself that don’t feel good or helpful, be aware of how these thoughts make you feel, then change them into something more positive. For example: “I can’t do anything right!” could become “I am going through a hard time right now, but I am strong enough and smart enough that I will get through it!” In time as this becomes easier for us, we are better able to share our hearts with others because we have learned not only how important self-love is but also know how important it is for others too!
4. Take advantage of peer support
Once you’ve found a support group, make sure to get the most out of it. Here are some tips:
- Find someone who has been through the same thing as you. It’s easier to relate to other people who have undergone similar experiences, so look for a group that is focused on your specific challenge or concern.
- Bring questions and be prepared to answer questions from others. If anyone asks you something that makes you uncomfortable, try saying, “I don’t want to talk about that right now.” You can always come back later if it feels more comfortable at another point in time.
- Come with an open mind and heart; remember that everyone is there because they want to help themselves and want others around them to succeed too! Remembering these things will make the situation much easier for everyone involved when complex topics arise during discussion sessions.*
5. Be willing to accept help
Accepting help is vital in moving forward when life throws you challenges. To accept help, you must be willing to let others help you. You can do this by:
- Asking for help when you need it.
- Saying yes when someone offers to lend a hand or an ear.
- Offering to lend a hand or an ear if someone asks for one.
6. Remember that you are not alone in this fight
It’s easy to feel like we’re the only ones who have dealt with a particular challenge, but we all face challenges at some point. The key is finding others who have also faced similar struggles and supporting each other through them. Whether it’s a friend, family member, therapist, or online community of people going through something similar—we need to find someone who understands what we are going through.
We all need someone who can relate to our experiences to feel less alone in the world. Even if you don’t have a support system for people going through something similar, there are many online communities where you can connect with others who have been through similar struggles.
7. Stop being afraid of failure and progress anyway along your chosen path
You will be surprised at how many people are willing to help you. You have to ask for help and accept that it’s okay to fail because when we fail, we learn what not to do next time. We all make mistakes, but it’s important that you don’t let fear of failure stop you from trying something new or taking the leap in life.
If you don’t try, you’ll never know what could have been achieved had you worked harder on your goal rather than giving up so easily.
8. Stop being afraid of winning and enjoy every step you’re taking along the way
The final step to overcoming fear is learning how to enjoy the journey. We live in such a fast-paced society that it can be easy to get caught up in the race for success and not enjoy what we are doing along the way. But why are you even doing it if you don’t have any fun along your path?
Being afraid of winning means that you will never achieve your goals because they may require risk and hard work. Fear of failure means that any time something goes wrong, there is no room for improvement because everything has been ruined (even though there might be ways to fix things). Being afraid of what other people think means that instead of being yourself or pursuing what makes YOU happy, you will make decisions based on what other people think would satisfy them or impress them enough for them not to judge or criticize. In short: Don’t let fear keep driving choices; let joy guide decisions!
I hope this post helped you feel empowered to move forward during times of uncertainty and challenge. There are no guarantees that life will always be easy, but there’s no reason why we can’t choose to make it a little easier on ourselves by finding ways to stay positive and inspired when things get tough.