Hey Sis,
You ever felt like you’re standing at the edge of greatness, just about to take that leap, and you look back expecting to see your folks cheering you on, only to find… nothing? Or worse, seeing them sitting there with skeptical eyes, arms crossed, waiting for you to fall so they can say, “I told you so”? Yeah, I’ve been there too.
When you reach out to family and friends for support on your journey, only to find more love and backing from strangers, it hits different. It’s a gut punch that leaves you questioning not just your dreams but your worth. We’re taught to brush it off, to keep it moving, but that doesn’t heal the hurt. Let’s talk about why this happens and what we can do as dreamers to rise above it.
Understanding the Lack of Support
First off, let’s get one thing straight: the lack of support from your loved ones isn’t always about you. Sometimes it’s their own fears and insecurities projected onto you. When they see you striving for something bigger, something outside the norm, it shakes up their world. It forces them to reflect on their own dreams deferred and paths not taken. It’s easier for them to criticize or withhold support than to confront their own doubts.
Addressing the Hurt
Acknowledge Your Feelings: Sis, it’s okay to feel hurt. Ignoring it or pretending it doesn’t bother you won’t make it go away. Sit with those feelings, cry if you need to, and then let it fuel your fire. Your feelings are valid, and so is your dream.
Communicate: Sometimes, our loved ones don’t even realize the impact of their actions. Have an honest conversation with them. Let them know how their lack of support affects you. They may not change overnight, but at least they’ll be aware.
Find Your Tribe: Not everyone is meant to be on this journey with you. Seek out those who understand and uplift you. Whether it’s an online community, a local group, or new friends who get your vision, surround yourself with positive energy.
Why They Don’t Support Until It’s a Trend
People often wait to support something once it becomes popular or trendy because they fear taking risks. They don’t want to be associated with failure, even indirectly. It’s a sad truth, but some folks are more comfortable jumping on a bandwagon than paving a new path.
How to Keep Moving Forward
Keep the Faith: Trust in your vision. Remember why you started and let that be your guiding light. Your dream was given to you for a reason, and it’s your responsibility to see it through.
Be Relentless: Every rejection, every doubt cast your way, is a stepping stone. Use it to build your strength and resilience. Keep pushing, keep grinding, and keep believing in yourself.
Celebrate Small Wins: Every little victory counts. Whether it’s a single sale, a word of encouragement from a stranger, or a tiny milestone reached, celebrate it. These moments are what keep you going.
Chasing Your Passion Despite the Odds
Understand that some people are down to their last, trying to provide for their families, and their lack of support might stem from their own struggles. It doesn’t justify their actions, but it helps you see the bigger picture. Keep chasing your passion, not just for you, but for those who will eventually be inspired by your perseverance.
Remember, many great movements started with one person daring to dream. You’re not just chasing a passion; you’re setting an example. You’re showing the world—and yourself—that it’s possible to break free from the mold and create something extraordinary.
Keep shining, keep dreaming, and never let the world dim your light. Your vision is valid, and so are you.
With love and determination,
Regina